Tag Archives: women and violence

Is it okay to sexually harass a woman if she is dressed in revealing clothes?

When a female reporter from Mexico’s TV Azteca stepped into the New York Jets locker room wearing tight jeans and a ‘boob revealing’ blouse, she reopened the argument of whether the way a woman dresses can ever mean she is ‘asking for’ certain consequences. The reporter, Ines Sainz, interviewed quarterback Mark Sanchez and later tweeted that she was ‘dying of embarrassment,’ but made no complaint to the team. But others did complain.

This reporter is known for wearing sexually revealing clothing and the network she works for doesn’t seem to have a problem with her attire since she is shown on their website wearing sexy clothes. She also went on different TV shows to discuss the incident wearing a revealing black blouse.

Both sides of the issue have strong arguments. One side saying that dressing provocatively will incite provocative behavior, and dressing like a professional will ensure receiving professional attention. The other side argues that blaming the attire one wears is blaming the victim, which justifies sexual assault, and by asking a woman to dress less revealing could lead to women being required to wear burqas to keep them safe from sexual assault.

I don’t know how to solve this problem as a whole, but I know how to prevent women from being sexually assaulted in a men’s locker room—stay out of the locker room! And interview the athlete after he is dressed. I never understood why any reporter, male or female, has to go into the locker room to interview an athlete while the athlete is half naked. That creates an embarrassing situation for everyone. All reporters should be banned from locker rooms. A locker room is not a professional setting—there are men walking around naked. How can business be conducted in that kind of atmosphere? I doubt I could concentrate on a serious interview with a man in a towel with his ‘dingle’ hanging out.

What do you think? Was this reporter asking to be sexually harassed by wearing sexy clothes or should women be able to dress sexy without being harassed by men?


Kelley Heckart

Timeless tales of romance, conflict & magic’



For some, spring’s song is the sound of a harsh battle horn, for others, new love, for all—certain danger.

Buy link:


Blogathon tomorrow to benefit Boston Area Rape Crisis Center! Please sponsor me…

I’m doing a Blogathon this Sat (7/31) to raise money for the Boston Area Rape Crisis Center (http://www.barcc.org)! My blog is at http://adriannebrennan.blogspot.com/ and I will be blogging every half hour for 24 hours.

My posts will include my thoughts and advice on writing, never-before posted excerpts of my works, and answers to any questions you pose to me beforehand.

To sponsor me, go here: http://tinyurl.com/AdrianneBlogsforBARCC then email me your receipt at adrianne@adriannebrennan.com so I can keep a running total.

Love & Magic,
Adrianne Brennan

Have Reality Shows Gone Too Far?

The subject of reality shows and how far they will go for publicity came up after I saw some clips promoting Season Two of Kourtney and Khloe Take Miami. CNN showed the clips as part of a news story about how these trailers had upset some people. My first thought was Keeping up with the Kardashians wasn’t enough, they had to make another useless show about these morons, I mean, people. Anyway, the clips showed what I perceived to be blatant domestic violence. Kourtney Kardashian is seen clutching her new baby, Mason, and cowering from the baby daddy, Scott Disick. Scott is seen drinking alcohol, exposing himself, yelling, punching walls, breaking things and the promo trailer ends with him in the hospital covered in blood. I guess they are willing to do anything for ratings even if it means glorifying a very real and horrible reality that is domestic violence. Besides that, don’t people get embarrassed anymore? Why would Kourtney allow this to be filmed? Some reports are circulating that Kourtney and Scott have split in the wake of this debacle, but these reports are unconfirmed.

Okay, I’m not completely daft when it comes to these reality shows. I know that they are somewhat staged and things are shown out of context, but it still seems wrong to me to promote domestic violence just to get higher ratings. Scott should have been arrested and Child Protective Services should have been at their door investigating whether the baby was, or could be, in danger. If this is being billed as a reality show, then the REALITY of domestic violence should be portrayed. In real life, Scott would have been arrested and the baby probably would have been taken away from them. Since I don’t watch this show, I don’t know if there was a disclaimer at the end of the episode that was supposed to air in June. I guess since they are famous (although why they are famous also escapes me) they can get away with breaking laws. If Kourtney and Khloe Take Miami is a reality show, then show us the gritty reality and consequences of domestic violence.

There are so many things wrong with this on so many levels. What do young people think when they see this kind of behavior on a reality show and how does it affect them? What will little Mason think (and how much damage will it do to him) when he is older and sees this episode of his father terrorizing his mother and acting like a complete ass? What does this say about our culture in general? Why do people even watch this crap? I’m all for free speech and all that, but this show is being called a reality show and what I saw was more like a dreadful attempt at a fictional drama. Do it right or don’t do it at all.

I’d like to know what other people think about this subject. Are reality shows taking things too far without showing the real consequences?

Kelley Heckart

‘Timeless tales of romance, conflict & magic’