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Do We Really Want to Mimic Nature?

I joined a Vegetarian Recipe Group on Facebook over the Summer but I ended up dropping it or rather, they dropped me after a discussion I just couldn’t wrap my head around.  Mind you, going into this article, I am not a Vegetarian. I was for a year or so and sometimes, I don’t have an appetite for meat, but even when I don’t I cook it for my family and we do hunt or raise our own as much as possible. The description on the Group said, though, it was for Vegetarian Recipes, those who were Vegetarian, or who were just trying to replace a meal once or twice a week, or were looking for new ways to cook Vegetables.

All were welcome.

I’m not sure how this Discussion/Argument started, I just know I seen a very similar train of thought since, which to this day, stumps me.

It’s the age old argument from certain devout Animal Lovers, which says we need to be more like Nature. These are the people who fantasize about how Animals live and co-exist and how in tuned with the Earth they are. These people usually have an obsessive infatuation with Wolves or whatever other predatory animal. (Don’t we all have an infatuation or love of a certain animal?) But they also believe we HUMANS are destroying the planet, overpopulating to the point that we are forcing these animals into extinction or hoggishly devouring their living space. Their biggest argument, Humans rape, kill and commit other great acts of evil whereas in Nature, they do not.  We need to mimic Nature.

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Would that be smart, though? Honestly? I struggle with this because to me, the argument could go either way. Being too much like Nature may actually be our problem because what these people refuse to admit or wrap their minds around is, much of Nature, if not all, is as cruel and ruthless as some of us Humans allow ourselves to be.

There is a pecking order to Nature. Own a Farm or Backyard flock and that becomes clear right away. If you own Chickens – Hens and Roosters—you see it whether you want to or not. Hens will peck another Hen to death. Don’t care how well you intervene or how much you tame or baby a Hen, chickens will do what chickens will do and that’s sort out a pecking order. An order, mind you, that is always up for grabs and being fought for. Placing younger chickens in a Coop with Hens can be a disaster too. They’ll die. I’ve watched them starve them out. I’ve watched them freeze them to death. I’ve watch them just outright murder another Chicken. Sexually, Roosters take Hens whether they want to be taken or not. Anyone out there that just threw a vivacious Rooster in with one or two Hens—slap yourself. He will pluck, cut, jab and mate with them until you hear the poor things cluck screams. Have a Rooster—make sure you have the appropriate amount of Hens to please him. The correct amount or more will give all the Hens a much needed break from his insatiable appetite. And this isn’t even going into what Roos do to other Roos. Don’t care if you raised them together and they are sweet, sweet boys. One day, the boys become men and they will fight to be King of the flock—even if that means killing or seriously harming the other. Another constant battle in the barnyard.

Rabbits, love raising them but they can be vicious to one another. I know people who are doing “Colonies” now with their Rabbit kingdoms. No thanks. Not shooting you down or your success but Id rather keep my females apart. Even Moms who have been separated from babies for short amounts of time are known to tear them a new one once they are back together. I had a Mother separated from a daughter for three weeks. Not completely separated because they are side by side in pins. I put them both in a Chicken Tractor so I could disinfect their cages and the Mother began to chase her daughter ripping out her fur and biting the holy hell out of her.Don’t think there isn’t a pecking order that will draw blood or death if need be. Females are territorial which is why they are placed in a Males cage come breeding time. A female can kill him if you stick him into hers. And Males? They will breed whether a Female wants to or not. It can get rather crazy. Male Goats can be just as brutal to females. If he isn’t fixed, he will pester the hell out of her. In fact, I haven’t seen a male animal of any variety – where farm life goes—that didn’t make me thankful I was Human.

Let’s give it the benefit of the doubt, though. Maybe the people arguing that we HUMANS need to be more like animals aren’t talking about what lives on a Farm. Maybe they are talking about what lives in the deepest parts of Nature. Let’s look at some of that then….

d1d971b2bb2e7fb445d274b1a4bb26c7Wolves. While beautiful and one of the most fantasized creatures out there, the habits of a wolf is nothing to admire. They will eat their own and a position in the pack is consistently up for grabs. That means, if one of their own is sick or injured, the Pack will eat him or her. That also means the Alpha is constantly having to fight to stay Alpha. Same with the She-Wolf in charge. Chances are, he or she won’t hold the position for long because sure enough, even their own pups will grow to challenge and take the crown. Once beaten, they are most likely eaten especially if they are injured during the fight. When they hunt other species, they also do not kill “humanly”. The pack eats the victim alive until it bleeds out and dies.

Maybe you think Wolves are an obvious one. Alright, let’s try another….

What about the peaceful, agile creatures known as Bottlenose Dolphins? Even I look forward to going to the beach and watching these majestic creatures swim by on early mornings. While I still enjoy watching them, I am very much aware of the habits which may deem them as cruel. They will kill each other for no reason—just fun– and the males—many, many males– will steal a female or another male, raping them repeatedly. Penguins are no better. They have been known to do the same not to mention all the physical abuse they inflict and lets not forget these cute little things are totally into necrophilia.

The most heartbreaking of necrophilia, though, is what Otters have been known to do to Baby Seals. They steal and then rape them until they die. Once dead, they’ll keep raping them. It doesn’t have to be breathing for an Otter to have it’s fun. Is this Karma at play? Does Karma exist in the Animal Kingdom because what otters do to Seals doesn’t even cover what Seals have been known to do to Penguins.

Still not convinced of Animals being cruel to other animals? Are these beasts not quite intelligent enough for you? Let’s try one who is famous for intelligence.

When I was young, I loved, Planet of the Apes, and I loved Chimps but even though these creatures are sometimes viewed as being far more civilized than humans, the truth is, they’re not. Males will try to force a Females into heat by ripping her baby to shreds and then eating it right in front  of her eyes. Females are no better…they will do it to other females in a heartbeat. Just for sheer cruelty.

Look, I’m not saying we should suddenly hate animals or practice animal cruelty because I am firm in my belief, you are kind and loving to all animals you raise and only hunt what you mean to eat. (If you are an omnivore.) And I am not saying those who Advocate for Animals should stop or that Vegetarians should become meat eaters. I am saying that those who hold this dreamy illusion over the Animal Kingdom need to take off the rose colored glasses. While its okay to fantasize, its not okay to say we should all be more like Nature because honestly, I think as Humans, we should be a little less. While SOME of our kind shamefully consume and destroy, rape and murder amongst ourselves, Nature doesn’t seem to reflect much of a difference. In other words, the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.

She’s asking for it

If a woman approaches a man and says something like ‘please have sex with me’ then she is asking for it. Anything that is not along the lines of  ‘I want you to shag me’ or akin to ‘take me, take me now,’ is not an invitation to sex. I’d rather hoped that by now, this was so obvious that it didn’t need mentioning, but recent court activity in the USA makes it clear there’s still work to be done.

Dressing provocatively is not ‘asking for it’. Assuming that it is, suggests some underlying assumptions that need to be challenged. If someone is dressing provocatively then that could well mean that they wish to draw attention to themselves and advertise that they are interested in hooking up for sex. That doesn’t mean they want sex with anyone who asks, or forces them. There is a whole world of difference between ‘available’ and ‘anybodies’.

I feel we’re dangerously close still to the Victorian stereotypes of angels and whores. A woman is either chaste, virtuous and unavailable, or she is a slut and you can do what you like to her. No one is either of those things, everyone is somewhere in between. Some women are more into sex than others, some are into monogamy, some like casual hook-ups, but I say with confidence that there are no women out there going round trying to get every man they meet to have sex with them. No matter how ‘up for it’ a woman is, she will have standards and preferences, and she should always have the right to say ‘no’. Even if a woman publically announces that she just wants someone to shag her, she still has the right to decline offers. Unless you are mentally unwell, there are going to be people you would say no to.

As women we have the right to control our bodies, and refuse or invite sex for any reason at all. Or no reason. We own our bodies. We can display them if we like, we can invite attention, make it clear we’re open to offers, and still expect to be able to say no and have that respected.

There are some very sick assumptions about men tied up in this issue as well. That men are basically animals who cannot control themselves. Show them some provocative female flesh and they can’t avoid copulating. They have to. Therefore anything other than covering up is going to make it impossible for them not to commit rape. Any kind of come-on or encouragement means they can’t stop. So once you’ve started, there’s no backing out, because men cannot be expected to have that kind of self control or discipline. Which is not a healthy attitude at all, and does a great disservice to the vast majority of blokes. Most of the men I’ve been involved with knew how to hear and respect ‘no’. Most of the men in my life have the self control not to have to shove themselves into anyone who looks halfway available, and would be disgusted by any assumption that they could, or would. But for the ones who do, the idea that all men are fundamentally like this gives them an excuse. One they have no right to.

Go into any clothing store and you’ll find it’s far easier to by provocative clothing for women than cover-up gear. Especially if you want to cover up without looking like you’re a pensioner. Look at the magazines, the media representation, the fashion gurus… provocative is the message. Yet a woman who goes with this, can then be blamed if someone takes it as an invitation to rape her. That’s not acceptable.

The other assumption at work here, the biggest lie of the lot, is that rape is about sex. What women think of as rape, is just men needed to do the natural thing. Bollocks! Sex is, and should be entirely about something shared between two people. If you aren’t interested in how the other person feels, you are not trying to have sex with them. At best you are using them. If you just want an orgasm, and don’t want a meaningful interaction with another human being (be it ever so brief) the answer is masturbation, or maybe a professional you can pay to help you out. It’s not hard. The internet is full of porn to help you help yourself. Horny decent people deal with this stuff with no trouble at all, and do not rape others just to scratch the itch. Rape is about power over another. It’s the violent assertion that they don’t matter as much as you. It’s an act of taking away from another, reducing and de-humanising them. Because if you merely like and fancy someone (much less love them), you’re going to take the time to be sure they feel the same way and want the same things. If you can’t be bothered to get that straight, you will end up raping someone.