Welcome to another Dear Spirit folks! Due to internet issues, I couldn’t finish my Dear Spirit column and post it in time and I do apologize profusely. Here it is in all its (late) glory! Today a young woman asks for a reading regarding a young man she’s just started dating, BUT, as usual spirit tells you what you need to hear and not what you want to hear. 😀 Also, a discourse on the suits of the tarot and what they mean.
“Hi, I’m a 26 year old woman who lives in the midwest. I’ve just started dating a co-worker and we seem to be getting along well. Would you provide a reading on the energies around us? Also, I should add I just recently ended a relationship with a man that was going no where. Once I left he wanted me back and promised me the sun, moon and stars only after I left. I don’t get it, what do the cards have to say? Thank you, AK, Owasso, OK
AK, when I read your e-mail my first thought was there was more to this matter than the questions presented at hand. There is a “weight” to your email, a worry that has more to do with you and how you are doing than the relationships you’ve asked about. Therefore, when I pulled the cards, I wasn’t surprised to find you pulled the Knight of Cauldrons, reversed; the Two of Swords, reversed; and the Five of Pentacles, upright.
In reference to your question with regard to your co-worker you are dating–with the reversed Knight of Cups, bear in mind that all Cups represent possible addictions. He’s still in his party animal stage and you may want to pay attention to any signs that indicate he does so way too much. The Knight of Cups in this reading represents a young man who is in disguise. He’s not being honest with you in some fashion, you don’t have the whole story. I have a strong feeling that something is wrong and you’re not seeing it at this time. My comment to this is, it takes time to get to know someone before you can judge a potential future with them. I say have fun, but be very aware that there’s more to this person than you realize and not all of it good (which is appropos for most people). Another facet to the Knight of Cups reversed is there is competition or a rival for love or he is using friendship for sexual gain. The competition may be coming from your ex, as in perhaps the ex is gearing up to “fight” for you and try to regain your heart and attention, or from a significant other with the young man, either way keep your wits about you, your emotions in check until you find out the truth of the matter and realize what you really do and do not want in your life. If the relationship has already hit the “sexual step” bear in mind that you are both consenting adults and what you do behind closed doors is your business, however, if at any time you’re feeling used as a physical pit stop, once again it’s time to explore where you are at and what you want out of this person, or for your life with regard to the relationship. As for your ex, I think we tend to realize what we have once it’s gone, but my question has always been, why did it take my leaving for you to realize it? My attitude has always been, telling me what I want to hear AFTER the fact is like locking the barn door after the horse escapes. I needed to hear those wonderful things DURING the relationship otherwise the person saying it isn’t speaking TRUTH. What they really want is for the status quo not to change as they were perfectly comfortable in the relationship at my expense. THAT IS JUST ME, HOWEVER. 😀 You have obviously decided the former relationship isn’t worth keeping. The ex will get it sooner or later and move on.
The Two of Swords, reversed, tells me you made the right decision in leaving your ex and have achieved peace of mind after you have made a choice. The consequence is harmony. An intriguing aspect to the reversed Two of Swords is be aware of people you deal with, some will not be honest with you, be impartial in your thinking, mind matters more than heart at this moment. A bell chimed in my mind when this card popped up because it advises me that neither the current young man you are dating nor your ex are being honest with you and if it is worth your time, get to the bottom of what is “off” about the current “beau” and know you made the correct decision about the former.
Now, the Five of Pentacles, upright, indicates you must combine your abilities (on all levels) with right timing. You are experiencing financial setbacks. This makes total sense if, say, you were living with your ex and sharing expenses, now you are taking care of all of your own expenses. Therefore, watch your spending habits like a hawk, save rather than spend, budget yourself well until the money storm passes. I’m also feeling you are experiencing a delay in receiving financial benefits (i.e., a raise, bonus, promotion). My strong thoughts are you are concerned about many areas of your life at the moment, health, finances, work, relationships, material and emotional insecurity. You feel an acute lack of love and sexual fulfillment and are looking for that special someone to fill the void. Just know filling that void with your positive growth and development is paramount to your continuous success, no one can do that for you except you. Know that you’re working toward these goals and you will achieve it, but you have to patience and an open mind to the possibilities and potential help around you. Also, you may not have issues where you are currently employed, but your present employment does not fulfill your needs. Keep yourself aware of new avenues of potential. If you have been with your employer for a long time, perhaps it’s time to have “The Talk” i.e., look Boss, here’s my worth, here’s what I bring to you, here’s what I need, etc. Worst case scenario they tell you where you stand with them, you don’t receive what you are asking for and everything remains the same. Best case scenario you learn information that may just aid you in taking the next step in your continued growth.
Good fortune to you, AK!
Now, I thought I’d give you some information about the suits of the tarot, their meanings and what they represent.
WHAT DO THE DIFFERENT SUITS MEAN?
There are four suits in the minor arcana of the tarot. The Cups, Wands, Pentacles and Swords.
The Cups and Pentacles are the two female suits of the tarot. They are womb symbols and embrace the female aspects of the feminine. These principles are characterized as negative (not good or bad, but meaning a different polarity—the yin inside us all), passive, dark (as in enigmatic, hidden, i.e., the subconscious), nurturing, mysterious, the moon, the emotional and non-rational qualities where intuition is relied upon more than logical thought.
The Wands and the Swords are the two masculine suits as they are representative of phallic symbols. They are the masculine principle characterized as positive (yang), active, energetic, assertive, fiery, the sun, creative and rational thought.
PERSONIFICATION OF THE SUITS
In order to better understand the different qualities of each, use your imagination to give each suit a personality. This does not mean that when Wands appear in a spread we are only talking about a man. It can be about a woman as well, depending on the other cards pulled in the spread. I find my sixth sense of the client and all of the cards pulled will confirm the sex of a person seen in the cards when it is necessary to indicate if an actual individual plays a hand in the energetic circumstances surrounding the querent.
CUPS-WATER-FEMALE: soft, flowing, gentle, emotional, loving, sensitive, imaginative, intuitive and laid back. This type of energy is reminiscent of a sheltered Southern Bell type of woman. She is nurturing toward her family, perhaps likes the arts (i.e., poetry, painting) is very intuitive, but she can also be moody and changeable like flowing water. As I am from the South, I remind the reader that Southern women are known as steel magnolias for a reason. They are the backbone of their clan and are a force to be reckoned with if crossed or protecting what matters to them. The image of flood waters creating great destruction comes to mind with this comment. Other cards in the spread are a general indicator of the individual you may see for the querent.
PENTACLES-EARTH-FEMALE: strong, dependable, down to earth, no-nonsense type of personality. She is also loving and nurturing, reminding one of a rugged country woman. In today’s society she could be likened to a practical working woman who cares for family, pays the bills, keeps her eye on expenses and bargains, monitors the checking account. She is a survivor in the truest sense of the word. The image of an earthquake moving a mountainside comes to mind when dealing with a female connected to Earth when she is pushed too far or determined to achieve a long sought after goal. She is a force to be respected. She can move heaven and earth to achieve her goals or rock your world, if pushed too far.
WANDS-FIRE-MALE: spirited, sporty, very sexual, adventurous man. He is very enterprising and is always looking for excitement, ways to promote himself at work, with new projects or just life in general. He is fun, dynamic, creative, imaginative, industrious, productive, inventive. Definitely a personality to take the initiative, can be scathing, heated, impetuous, sarcastic, will burn you with his wit and scathing tongue if his temper is inflamed. I usually experience very dashing personalities when Wands appear in a spread. It lets me know the querent has the ability to tap into this energy it’s only a matter of if they want to utilize such dynamic possibilities to find their answers. In terms of nature, a warm campfire on a cool night is one aspect of these fiery personalities or a raging forest fire destroying everything in its wake, another facet. These cards often represent activating energy, and the personalities that vibrate to this energy, firestarters. They are definitely powerful in their intentions, it just depends are much these souls wish to bring their desires into fruition because their “heat” can definitely clear the way for them.
SWORDS-AIR-MALE: air pertains to the mind, which at times can be very analytical, cold and judging or piercing, decisive and knowledgeable. This suit represents an extremely intelligent individuals. They can be lawyers, computer programmers or even military. They are straightforward and direct, ambitious, calculating and sometimes aggressive, but can be one to defend, to demand justice, to clarify facts so that the best decision is made for all concerned. Because the Swords have to do with morals, it involves making judgments. This personality can be as powerful and demanding as the CEO of a corporation or as protective and defending as a police officer. These people can also batter you with their intellect. They can be ruthless adversaries, patronize and belittle you with their minds in order to achieve what they believe will be the upper hand. However, they are also the Einsteins of the world. Their powerful thoughts can alter the course of life events. They absolutely make an impact that will be far reaching in its consequences.
When reading the tarot all facets of the cards (from suits, to imagery, to numerology, astrology, etc.) must be taken into consideration. Each of these symbols speaks to the subconscious mind as they are archetypal iamges of the first order. When you see the imagery in a reading, take a moment to let it all sink in, then start to speak to your querent. You will find your imagination, your psychic sense will resonate to the energy of the suits in the spread and it will open you to the necessary energetic connection to your client in order to provide the answers the querent needs to their issue at hand.
Next month, the mixture of suits in a reading and what each one potentially means in connection with others, then we’ll discuss the major arcana, numerology, and astrology all in connection with the tarot, so stay tuned!
Erin Sinclair (www.erinsinclairauthor.com)