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Movie Reviews from The Fox Hole – Legion (2010)

Good morning, my fellow Pagans! Yes, I know I missed a week, but the pup insisted that foxes shouldn’t be forgotten at Easter. After all fox pups enjoy chocolate bunnies and Easter eggs as much as the next kid. Scrubbing the melted sticky peeps out of the carpet and fox fur though was not my idea of a good time. *glares at pup*

Any who…where was I? Oh, yeah the pup and I have a new movie review for you folks.

Legion (2010)

Legion (2010)

Trailer HERE

CAST: Kevin Durand, Lucas Black, Jeanette Miller, Kate Walsh, Tyrese Gibson, Dennis Quaid, Paul Bettany, Charles S. Dutton, Jon Tenney, Adrianne Palicki, Willa Holland

Review –

I’ve only reviewed movies from my DVD collection so far, but this time I’m doing a recently released movie Legion from writer Peter Schink (Gotham Café-2005) and Scott Stewart (producer – Big Love). There are numerous reasons I chose to review Legion. One of the main reasons though is (as a friend of mine likes to say) that I seem to obsess over angel crap. Well, it’s not an obsession and I’ve told her numerous times, but she’s not interested in religion so it’s all crap to her. 🙂

Since my teenage years, I’ve had an interest in myth and religion, two subjects inextricably entwined in the history of mankind’s existence.  It’s not just Christianity (after all, I am Pagan) but rather all religions that have existed or still exist and their similarities in belief and the written word. Christianity just happens to be one of the most visible and verbal. With the newest belief the apocalypse will hit in 2012 (courtesy of a misunderstanding of the Mayan calendar), Hollywood has grabbed onto the Apocalypse and rode it bareback rodeo-style into the arena of the theater as well as television—nothing new there. What I do find new is the throwback to the original source material—yes folks, Revelations.

Schink and Stewart take a page from Revelations and smack us in the face with a version of the original biblical end of the world. Anyone who has read the bible knows that the angels are the ones that start the Apocalypse under God’s orders. Hollywood and society spent decades convincing us that angels are beautiful beings of light with huge fluffy white wings and halos when in reality angels were far from that in the Bible. Angels were in fact, warriors, soldiers of God, and the original bad asses of the universe. The sight of them put the fear of God into man—no pun intended.

Legion opens with a montage of desert scenes voiced over by Charlie (Adrianne Palicki from Friday Night Lights, Supernatural). She talks of her childhood and her mother’s faith in God. When her father leaves her mother’s views on God change and she asks her mother why God is angry with his children. Her mother’s reply; I don’t know. I guess he just got tired of all the bullshit. I personally love this line because to be honest if I were God I’d be pissed. Mankind has been using their religion as an excuse to murder millions in the name of God for centuries.

We are then delivered to a dark alley, somewhere in Los Angeles, two days before Christmas to witness the appearance of the archangel Michael (Paul Bettany, The Da Vinci Code). It’s apparent he’s on the run from something, his wings sliced off leaving two massive wounds in his shoulder blades and he’s kicking ass and taking names. Breaking into a warehouse of illegal weapons, he cleans himself up, and packs some bags for a massive showdown. When he blows the doors of the warehouse, he attracts the attentions of two cops who soon become the first to fall in the war that’s coming. One killing the other while possessed by what appears to be a demon that tells Michael these are not your orders. Michael informs said demon that I’m following my own orders now before killing it. He then takes off with the police car, the lights of the city going dark in his wake.

Skipping forward we’re introduced to our two leads who have no idea what’s headed their way in the middle of the Texas desert; Jeep (Lucas Black, American Gothic), the son of the diner/garage owner, and Charlie (Adrianne Palacki), a pregnant waitress who he adores, although she doesn’t love him the way he loves her. Our cast is rounded out by Jeep’s father, Bob (Dennis Quaid, Pandorum); a hook-handed cook Percy (Charles S. Dutton, Fame); a family trapped until their vehicle is repaired (Jon Tenney, Willa Holland, & Kate Walsh); and a father on his way to see his kid, Kyle (Tyrese Gibson, Transformers). This motley assortment of characters, possess unique flaws that makes for some interesting interactions. They’re wrapped up in their own problems so deep they don’t see the writing on the wall, so to speak, until it’s too late.

Around them are signs that something isn’t right; no television signal and loss of phone service. Enter an elderly woman that turns out to be far more than just human. She delivers a message to Charlie, Your baby is going to burn, and then turns on the occupants with a demonic vengeance. At this point, the good folks of this isolated way station begin to wonder exactly what they’ve stepped in. Trust me folks it isn’t dog shit.

Terrified, they hole up in the diner, and soon Michael appears, arsenal in tow, and informs them that he isn’t there to protect them, but rather Charlie and her unborn child.  You see, Charlie, who never wanted the baby in the first place, is carrying humanity’s only hope of surviving the apocalypse.

Legion isn’t the best movie I’ve ever seen, but I admire the writers for going the route they do. They spin all our heads with the idea that God, his angels, and heaven aren’t exactly what we believe they are. The special effects are impressive: especially during a violent showdown between Michael and Gabriel (Kevin Durand, Lost & Dark Angel) who still has his wings. Legion taps into a number of genres to tell its story including the classic western showdown (can we say Alamo?), fantasy, and horror. It even takes a chapter from James Cameron’s original Terminator.

Although not shocking, the ending does have a twist that amused me and holds a lesson for anyone who has followed orders blindly. In a society bombarded by the media, telling us how to dress, speak, look, and what to read and believe on a daily basis it is a lesson we should take to heart. Welcome folks to free will and thinking for yourself. Not to mention taking responsibility for our own lives and the decisions you make–whether good or bad.

Final Rating: 3/5 Fox Pups


Ratings System:

5 Fox Pups – Must See/Can’t Miss

4 Fox Pups – Excellent

3 Fox Pups – Good

2 Fox Pups – Passable

1 Fox Pups – Skip It

Inspired to re-use

Sometimes we’re done with an item before it’s worn out. Rather than just throwing it away, most green minded folk will pass it along – to friends, charity shops or through systems like freecycle. Keeping usable items in use reduces landfill, and consumption, saves money and is far greener.

However, what do you do with items that have worn out or broken and cannot be reused as they are?

This is where the inspiration and creativity come into play. See the item as a creative challenge, and try and find a good solution to re-using it. You might find that it can be broken down into component parts for recycling – e.g. an old mattress can be recycled if you cut the fabric off and separate it from the metal innards. It takes a bit of work, but that effort is service to the gods and the planet.

Broken wooden furniture can be burned on stoves, or kept for ritual fires.

Take apart old satellite dishes, and you’ll find a light weight metal bowl in the middle, which can be re-used as a fire-dish for ritual.

Many old containers can have holes cut in them and be re-used as plant pots – I have a an old beer barrel in the garden with strawberries growing in it. Saves on money for plant pots and makes it easier to grow your own food.

Un-useable clothing can be cut up for cleaning rags. It can also be used for making patchwork, toys, decorations, and other items of clothing. Scraps of fabric, dead underwear etc can be used to stuff cushions. Old pillows can be folded in half and made into cushions to good effect, with the cover made out of old clothes remnants. You can use old clothes to make dressing up gear for children as well, or let them loose with scissors and needle, experimenting and making their own things.

Inspiration feeds on opportunity. If all you do is watch television, then your creativity is never called into play. Un-useable household objects challenge us to be creative, and find ways of dealing with them that doesn’t result in them adding to the huge and hideous piles of landfill we already have. Innovative re-use is fun and inherently rewarding. It gives you unique objects and opportunities, which in their turn might save you money. It also gives you a wholly different relationship with the objects around you, making them less disposable, so that you think more about their whole life cycle rather than your short term use of them.

Mainstream media will tell you that everything in your house ought to look like it came from a shop and was made by a machine. Even though the quality of such things is frequently really low. Let your home be a playground, experiment, create, turn useless things into strange and interesting new things you can put to use. It’s fun, it saves money, is green, and gives you chance to invite inspiration into your life.

To Cheat or Not to Cheat…

ATT222111 There have been a ton of reports popping up lately in the media of those who have cheated on their spouses. We have Jesse James stupidity done against beautiful Sandra Bullock, John Gosselin (of course I am still wondering who would have him), and now Tiger Woods claim to naughty fame. Although the Jesse James situation blew me through a loop because I had seen Sandra’s latest award speech, so when the news of her cheater husband came out the next day, I truly felt for her. However, it wasn’t  until Whoopie Goldburg’s recent defense of his actions that through me not only into another loop, but that damn thing was on fire! (And I usually love Whoopie)

That got me thinking about monogamy and our society rule. While I will forever hold my ground that cheating is absolutely WRONG…I am open to the idea that we put too much emphasis on partners being with ONE other partner for the rest of their life.

Let’s start with Fiction. The newest argument concerning some of our favorite immortal subjects such as Vampires is the fact that it doesn’t seem plausible that one immortal could love another one for all eternity. Waking up too, laying with, being with, suffering with, bearing the irritating habits of…one person for infinity….yeah, it takes a little to get that down. Not that I am dissing the whole soul mate thing. Hell, I have written about it. But in reality terms…a human mind finds a hard time fathoming it.

Yet in real life,  it is the main goal of many and most. Finding that one person to be with until death do you part. Of course no one says, HEY…after a few years…you might be the one wanting some death lol. *kidding* (Believe it or not, I am happily married.)

Still, we obsess with this and that idea, but then find ourselves in relationships where the other person can not live up to their end of the bargain….so they cheat. Instead of saying hey, I am starting to dig someone else and need to see where it goes, or can we have an open relationship—insert lies and deception…away the cheater goes.

I’ve been cheated on. It sucks. It can turn a loving woman into a vindictive bitch. It can turn a doting and loyal man into an obsessive stalker on the edge of becoming a killer. And then we have that adorable truth…once a cheater, always a cheater. It hurts like hell too…and what’s worse, others blame YOU…and or you feel like a damn fool. Cheating has become such a hot item that most people simply accept it as another marital problem they need to work through. You know like him snoring, or her not paying the bills on time?

If some people can not bring themselves to be faithful, then why not be in a relationship where cheating is ok…as long as everyone is open about it? Do we blame society for treating polygamists  as if they are complete and utter perverts? And why don’t women practice more of this? Why is it that we simply hear about men having more than one wife? Where are the women with more than one dang husband, damn it? I know society frowns at the older woman taking a younger lover, but where are my many- lovers- shacked- up- in- the- house -with- one- gal–women????And why can’t we just sociably accept that?

Or why do we stare and gawk at those who claim to be swingers? We put them on late night sex shows as if they are the biggest shame in the world, yet apparently, so many are trying or doing it. Why not get it off the taboo channels and bring it into the open? That way when you meet someone you can say, “Hey babe, I swing, if you swing, we all swing?” And duh—no big surprises when HE brings home a new SHE for you to try out!

Or maybe its not in the hands of society at all….maybe it is within us or the cheater. Maybe the cheater wants a one on one relationship…or wants one that appears that way. All the while the rest-assured partner doesn’t run off to lye in other pastures. Maybe the cheater wants a half and half relationship? So while wife or husband is home being faithful, cheater gets to run around, experiencing that fresh euphoria of mucking with someone new?????

To me, it would just be easier to get passed what is taboo. Less people would be hurt that way. More people could be honest in the beginning of a relationship and say hey, this is what I want—without shame. Maybe if Whoopie, Jesse James, and Tiger would have done that, then less people would have been hurt. And then there would be less society could attack them for.

For me, I’ll stick with my husband. While I am open minded towards everyone else’s choices, I happen to like being alone, so just by me being married is a shock lol. While I don’t have to deal with the crazy eternity factor, (because unfortunately he is not a Vamp), I am just too dang busy to work on relationships with others. But hey, for those who do, more power to ya…just keep it honest and keep it real!

There, that’s my article for this month’s coming out of the closet them—let the cheaters come out and start sleeping around with honesty!

C.H. Scarlett