Bleeding Green

If you use tampons, or sanitary pads, then every month you send a whole heap of stuff to landfill or into the water system. Taken over the fertile years of a woman’s life, that’s a lot of throwing away.

 Adverts for sanitary wear are all about being able to carry on as normal (even is most of us don’t habitually skate around in white trousers). It’s about being clean and nice, so that no one will know. Pads are absorbent, keeping all that icky mess away from your skin. Demonstrations of absorbency don’t show anything that resembles blood. Last time I saw an advert, there was a nice, clean, clinical looking blue fluid.

 Hello?

Women bleed. It’s one of the things that sets us apart from men. It is a key thing defining the journey from girl to adult. A critical part of our fertility and sexuality. It ties us to the tides of the moon. It isn’t dirty, it shouldn’t have to be a terrible, embarrassing secret.

Last year I discovered I was allergic to the sanitary pads. They were making me sore. It sent me on a journey. I invested in a mooncup – a nifty bit of latex technology that allows you to choose where your blood goes. Collecting my own blood, I’ve put it on the land. It was a simple, non-ritual kind of thing to do, affirming my connection with the soil, giving back what had come from me. I recommend it as a thing to explore.

I also used my son’s old nappies, cutting them down to size, folding and stitching to make fabric pads that could be used and washed. It’s the kind of thing our grandmothers did, in the ‘dark ages’ before tampons and pads with wings.

And you know, it works. I’ve had the odd leak, but I’ve had leaks with pads too, they aren’t perfect. No more soreness. I save a little money each month not buying the pads. I put less into the bin, which is green. I feel a lot better for it. There’s a sense of cleanness that comes, not from being blood free, but from having a better relationship both with my body, and the planet.

Bleed red. Bleed green. It’s nothing to be ashamed of.

Women Issues : Sex, Suppression, & Orgasms

What do you call a woman who loves sex and enjoys it with different partners?

A slut.

What do you call men who love sex and has a different lover nearly every night?

A player.

And what do we think of players?

So many, including young men, aspire to be them.

Well we are bringing an end to such gibberish now. What do you say?

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Long ago in Ancient times, having sexual encounters with a woman meant that the man was experiencing a spiritual act of love with the goddess herself. And women were taught wondrous arts of how to obtain orgasms, which would also awaken her senses and bring her closer to the divine forces of her Great Mother. In fact, in many cultures, an orgasm was one of the greatest of powers and forms of divination.

In ancient Egypt, women and men had trial marriages where the woman would live with the man and ‘try him out’ to see if relations with him and a living arrangement suited her.

And in the earliest of cultures we had Sacred Prostitutes who were great priestess, well kept in temples…and through them a man or woman could discover unimaginable divinities.

And then one day…a woman’s sexual freedoms became eternal damnation and myth. And this horrible thing happened:

According to JAMA (the Journal of the American Medical Association), 43 percent of American women suffer from some form of “Female Sexual Dysfunction”–often placing the blame on themselves for their inability to reach orgasm. SOURCE

Yes, hard to believe but somehow, someway, we women, FORGOT how to get off!

And men stopped worrying about it unless it made them feel less than a man—in which case—he blamed us.

And what is worse….we began blaming ourselves.

What? What happened to us?

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Why the big difference between men and women? Is it various religions that has dug a sexually suppressed grave for our ladies and buried them in it? How come people think sex is more important to men? How come women need to lie or hide the fact that they have been with more than one man while men get to brag and flaunt every woman they have scored with? How come our own sisters will crucify us, call us sluts, whores, and ho’s if we desire more than one man?

But more importantly…..with all of our medical knowledge, how come its only been the span of a generation since the medical community have even and finally discovered that yes…women can have an orgasm to?

How come indeed?

That was yesterday….and today is a new day. While the answers above may never be answered nor matter anymore….today women can bust out of their ruts and have a sexual awakening. No longer is she expected to lay there, but rather take her lover by the hair and tell HIM what she likes and what she wants.

Now we know that virtually any woman can climax – and indeed have multiple climaxes – if the circumstances of her life are right. And these circumstances usually include having a caring, understanding partner who is knowledgeable about sex, and who uses that knowledge to help her relax and to reach orgasm. Source

I would like to draw your attention to the article above at this web site. If you do not like that one, then by the Gods, just Google Women and Orgasms and you will find a whole slew of places to explore.  The one I have listed is my favorite, though, and seems to have a little of everything.

Why bother?

Because in order for women to understand their sexuality, they need to understand how their bodies work. And men…if you are worthy lovers and wish the ultimate sexual experience…you will explore these sites and learn as well.

Why?

Because by understanding our bodies we can achieve all the blessings that come with them. And I am not sure if men realize this….but when your woman doesn’t have to fake it…the experience is ten times better than the usual automatic climaxes your body just seems to shoot off.

Health Benefits?

I believe that possibly some of  the reasons women are suffering from obesity– caused by stress and poor metabolism, high blood pressure, tension (migraines), insomnia, depression, and who KNOWS what else, is because we ladies have stopped getting our GROOVE on. Maybe why we crave junk food or binge eat is because we are not having our needed dose of orgasms. We can’t sleep even though we pop pills because why? Because our body lacks the natural tranquilizer it produces during climax.  Am I nuts?

No, I am a woman discovering and figuring these things out same as you. But thanks to those doing research and studies…other people got a clue long before I did.

And no, this isn’t going to be a one problem solved kind of thing especially if your just not in the ‘mood’. This again falls in line with the article I posted earlier titled Women Issues:Asserting Your Power .

While there are other issues in a woman’s life to get right….SEX should not be forgotten. If you can not get comfortable with your lover to climax with him or her (just yet)…then go please yourself. There are tons of toys and aids you can order secretly online to be delivered to your house without ANYONE knowing.

We are leaving the darkness of an Age where women drudge through this world never knowing a true orgasm and suffering the illnesses—mentally and physically from that. Today, we leave behind the old mentality of sluts, whores, or scarlet women and the many other horrid names we label our sisters with—> just because they have attempted to know their own sexuality.

Sites like the one I listed above will explain all sorts of  ways and facts.

So I say ladies, you are no longer suppressed. Go on out there and have your lovers…and bed them well…and teach them how to bed YOU well.

But here’s hoping you find a man that wanted to learn on his own….and off he went to educate himself. *winks*

C.H. Scarlett