Overcoming the Inferiority Complex

Inferiority is the root to many issues in our lives.  Many of us are defeated by our feelings inadequacy without even realizing that we are suffering from it. Inferiority is a sense of feeling unsure or uncertain about oneself.  It’s constantly comparing yourself to others, and feeling that you fall short or just aren’t good enough.  This feeling can overwhelm us at times, and send us into a reactionary space, making us defensive about our choices and our experiences.

peaceSigns you may be suffering from an inferiority complex:

–         Do you grudgingly admit your shortcomings, while enthusiastically pointing out the shortcomings of others?

–         Do you bully people or talk about others with disdain?

–         Do you feel attacked when someone disagrees with you?

–         Do you feel belittled when you receive correction or confrontation?

–         Do you blame others for your problems?

–         Do you derive your worth and value from your performance or appearance?

–         Are you touchy, fragile, easily hurt, whether you show it or not?

–         Are you critical or defensive?

–         Do you feel as if you have to talk about yourself to get others to like you?

–         Do you have a superior attitude?

–         Do you try to impress people?

Being in an inferior thought process is a self governed prison; it’s the ball and chain you drag behind you wherever you go.  Feelings of inferiority are fear-based emotions; when we come from a place of fear, we cannot achieve greatness or success, for all the foundations we lay down for our lives are shaky and unstable.

In working to overcome inferiority, we must remember that Spirit did not make us from fear.  Our souls, which are the true essence of our being, are made from power, from love, from forgiveness, from confidence; we are made from the light of the Sun and Universal Love.  Nature is completely confident that plants will grow, that the world will evolve; and we are made from Nature, it is our minds and our bodies, so that same sense of assurance is instilled in us.  It is truly not in our nature to be fearful of who we are and what we can accomplish. Fear is something we learn, something we are taught. For many of us, it becomes a habit we do no even realize we are acting upon.

We compare ourselves to others’ achievements, to the success of our family and friends.  We fantasize about how easy it must have been for them, and whine, “Why not me?  When do I get mine?  Why is he/she so special?” In reality, we have no idea what that person had to go through for their success, and we are making ourselves miserable with unfounded feelings of injustice.  The truth is, when you compare yourself to others, you are completely negating everything Spirit had to do to get you where you are. You are belittling the struggles you survived, the people who blessed you, the good works you achieved, and the love and happiness you’ve experienced that made you who you are.

TheBambooPathTake into consideration how much of the path of our lives is a mystery to us.  You go through your experiences for a reason, and there is a purpose to every lesson you learn. If you are preoccupied with someone else’s portion of life, with someone else’s lesson, you miss your own.  Remember that life is a work in progress, and you have not finished yet.  You have no idea what life has in store for you, or what wonderful things you are being prepared for! Enjoy and be satisfied with your own path, instead of desiring the path of others.

To transform inferiority, you must renew your thought process in reference to yourself and the world around you.  One way is to start looking at yourself through the eyes of the Goddess, through the eyes of the Light.  Spirit is already convinced you are worth it, does not find you lacking in any way, and is certain that you have undeniable gifts to offer the world.  Through Spirit, we are perfect, and more than we need to be in order to succeed.  When you open to your Higher Self, you align with Spirit – meaning that your energy and the love of the Universe is constantly moving, constantly growing, and constantly changing your life and the energy around you, every minute of everyday.

Sometimes we make the mistake of trying to validate ourselves by ourselves.  We are so busy ‘looking out for Number One’ we overlook the way we can help others.  The quickest way to move out of inferiority is to become aware of the skills and abilities you can offer the world.  Ask yourself, “What do I have to offer?”  Not only does this question force us to see our worthiness, it helps us realize the power we have to bless, heal, and help those around us.

Building our self image and esteem does not start with selfishness, it begins with gratitude for our own paths, and the love we share with the world.

Finding a Good Man…

A friend sent me this little verse in an email (author unknown), and I thought it was nice to share here… a good reminder of what you should expect from a man who loves you! And, some inspiration for romance writing!

oshun%20e%20changoFind a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will stay awake just to watch you sleep. Wait for the guy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in your sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends. Wait for the one who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about you and how lucky he is to have you. Wait for the one who turns to his friends and says,”…..that’s her.”

I’m off to daydream of such a man…

What is Reiki?

reiki blackReiki is a holistic, hands-on energy healing system that touches on all levels: body, mind, and spirit. Reiki (pronounced Ray-Key) is a Japanese word in which the first syllable, Rei, means spirit, aura, or subtle energy.  The second syllable, Ki, means energy, or power.  Different cultures and spiritual paths have other names for this energy; in China it is called Qi, and in India, shakti or prana. In English we use terms such as life force, cosmic consciousness, or divine energy.

The practice of Reiki is a hands-on healing system for channeling this life force. A Reiki healer channels this energy to the client, adjusting imbalances and bringing harmony to the physical, emotional, spiritual and mental. In any healing, the goal is to find the limitation, recognize the pattern, recognize where it came from, and let it go.  As Reiki cleanses on all levels of the conscious and unconscious, the power of Reiki healing helps to alleviate the thought patterns, physical manifestations and emotional ways of being, that no longer serve us on our journey to our personal highest expression.

energyhealingWhat people experience during treatments varies according to what each person needs.  Some people enter a relaxed meditative state as stress is released and replaced by a sense of increased vitality. Others have intense emotional cleansings during sessions, and leave feeling elated or very peaceful, freed from unresolved issues and memories.

Reiki is also a gateway to the shining, pure love of the universe. It is this love which allows us to transcend our wounds and help us remember our true nature.

Pagan Holidays for November 11th, 2009

Wednesday November 11th, 2009

Wednesday is the day of the God Woden. Woden is the Angelo Saxon God of knowledge, enlightenment, and of war.

Some say that Woden is the same as the Norse deity Odin.

Wednesday represents Mercury and the element of air. it is a good day to tend to matters and or invoke spells concerning business, communicating, debt, fear, a type of loss, money, work, education. This is also a good day to travel.

On November 11th…

The Irish celebrated Lunantishees

The Scottish celebrated Old November Day & Quarter Day

The Romans celebrated Vinalia

The Norse held their Feast of Einherjar


Today is the day that the Irish would celebrate their Observance for the Fairies called Lunantishees. These were Fairies of the Blackthorn Bushes. That meant you better not muck with or pick the Blackthorn bushes on this day, else wise you would make the Lunantishees very upset. If you defy them then they will bring down upon you horrible misfortune.


In the Old English Calendar, today was the Scottish Old Novembers Day & Quarter Day. That meant that Winter begins on this day.


Today Rome celebrated Vinalia. it was to honor Bacchus, their God of Wine.


The Norse held their feast of Einherjar on this day. This day was for the Warriors who died bravely and heroic in battle.

These warriors are expected to fight as boldly in the future battle of Ragnarok—the final battle that will bring about the end of this world so that the birth of a new one can begin.

So on this day, those deceased Warriors are awakened by the crowning of Gullinkambi. The Warriors must then fight and test each other until sunset. After which, they will be called to stand before Odin and have their wounds healed.

Would you like to read more? Here are some pages I used and recommend…


Wednesday –Wikipedia


A beautiful and very informative page concerning Angelo/Saxons & Woden

The Element of Air—Wikipedia