Inferiority is the root to many issues in our lives. Many of us are defeated by our feelings inadequacy without even realizing that we are suffering from it. Inferiority is a sense of feeling unsure or uncertain about oneself. It’s constantly comparing yourself to others, and feeling that you fall short or just aren’t good enough. This feeling can overwhelm us at times, and send us into a reactionary space, making us defensive about our choices and our experiences.
Signs you may be suffering from an inferiority complex:
– Do you grudgingly admit your shortcomings, while enthusiastically pointing out the shortcomings of others?
– Do you bully people or talk about others with disdain?
– Do you feel attacked when someone disagrees with you?
– Do you feel belittled when you receive correction or confrontation?
– Do you blame others for your problems?
– Do you derive your worth and value from your performance or appearance?
– Are you touchy, fragile, easily hurt, whether you show it or not?
– Are you critical or defensive?
– Do you feel as if you have to talk about yourself to get others to like you?
– Do you have a superior attitude?
– Do you try to impress people?
Being in an inferior thought process is a self governed prison; it’s the ball and chain you drag behind you wherever you go. Feelings of inferiority are fear-based emotions; when we come from a place of fear, we cannot achieve greatness or success, for all the foundations we lay down for our lives are shaky and unstable.
In working to overcome inferiority, we must remember that Spirit did not make us from fear. Our souls, which are the true essence of our being, are made from power, from love, from forgiveness, from confidence; we are made from the light of the Sun and Universal Love. Nature is completely confident that plants will grow, that the world will evolve; and we are made from Nature, it is our minds and our bodies, so that same sense of assurance is instilled in us. It is truly not in our nature to be fearful of who we are and what we can accomplish. Fear is something we learn, something we are taught. For many of us, it becomes a habit we do no even realize we are acting upon.
We compare ourselves to others’ achievements, to the success of our family and friends. We fantasize about how easy it must have been for them, and whine, “Why not me? When do I get mine? Why is he/she so special?” In reality, we have no idea what that person had to go through for their success, and we are making ourselves miserable with unfounded feelings of injustice. The truth is, when you compare yourself to others, you are completely negating everything Spirit had to do to get you where you are. You are belittling the struggles you survived, the people who blessed you, the good works you achieved, and the love and happiness you’ve experienced that made you who you are.
Take into consideration how much of the path of our lives is a mystery to us. You go through your experiences for a reason, and there is a purpose to every lesson you learn. If you are preoccupied with someone else’s portion of life, with someone else’s lesson, you miss your own. Remember that life is a work in progress, and you have not finished yet. You have no idea what life has in store for you, or what wonderful things you are being prepared for! Enjoy and be satisfied with your own path, instead of desiring the path of others.
To transform inferiority, you must renew your thought process in reference to yourself and the world around you. One way is to start looking at yourself through the eyes of the Goddess, through the eyes of the Light. Spirit is already convinced you are worth it, does not find you lacking in any way, and is certain that you have undeniable gifts to offer the world. Through Spirit, we are perfect, and more than we need to be in order to succeed. When you open to your Higher Self, you align with Spirit – meaning that your energy and the love of the Universe is constantly moving, constantly growing, and constantly changing your life and the energy around you, every minute of everyday.
Sometimes we make the mistake of trying to validate ourselves by ourselves. We are so busy ‘looking out for Number One’ we overlook the way we can help others. The quickest way to move out of inferiority is to become aware of the skills and abilities you can offer the world. Ask yourself, “What do I have to offer?” Not only does this question force us to see our worthiness, it helps us realize the power we have to bless, heal, and help those around us.
Building our self image and esteem does not start with selfishness, it begins with gratitude for our own paths, and the love we share with the world.